Qualities of a high-value Woman- What It Takes

As we come close to mid-year, it’s always a good time to reflect and strategize for the next half.

If you ask me, this year has run by pretty fast.

I am a big advocate for personal growth and development and there is no better time to think about strategies for the next half than now.

Being a woman, this is a dedication to all the women who desire to show up for themselves in a better way before the year ends.

If you are reading this it means you are seeking to be a high-value woman, or you already are one (which is amazing).

 

First things first, let’s define what it means:

 

A high-value woman is conscious of who she is and understands her calling when it comes to serving her generation.

This woman is brave and exudes an aura of freshness, warmth, vibrance, love and so much more wherever she is.

While this woman is all that, there is a very thin line between faking it and genuinely being and becoming a high-value woman.

We’ll get into that shortly.

 

So let’s delve into what it takes to become just that… A HIGH VALUE WOMAN

 

Just a disclaimer, these points are in no particular order and they are all important in their own right.

 

Okay okay, here we go!

 

 

1. She is self-aware and authentic

 

In the simplest way, I’ll say self-awareness is the ability to see your true self.

The ability to see yourself objectively by being introspective.

Recognizing your beliefs and biases, emotions, interests, purpose, strengths, and weaknesses.

And definitely, the list is not limited to what I mentioned.

 

How do you see yourself without any influences? That’s the plain you.

A high-value woman does not wait for people to tell her who she is for she knows it.

While saying this, I am very mindful of the place of authority figures in your life that call out the gifts in you that you might not be aware of yet.

 

This is what I mean: Say someone tells you you are beautiful.

A high-value woman will respond with a heartfelt thank you.

One who is not self-aware will be like “I am?” or similar responses.

This gives a lot of insecurity and shows that there is still work that needs to be done in terms of finding themselves.

 

 

 

This is connected to being authentic.

I put these two together because I believe a self-aware woman does not pretend to be who she is not.

If she does not know something, she’d rather remain silent or ask.

One who is not a high-value woman might want to sound smart and end up mixing up themselves and that’s not nice.

That thought reminds me of a verse in Proverbs that says “Even a fool is considered wise when they remain silent.” (Prov 17:28)

 

The action step for this would be to be honest with yourself.

Don’t cover up the ugly side. Acknowledge it too and work on changing it.

It’s hard to admit the hard things to ourselves.

Do you sometimes sit and think “That was a mean comment, or I didn’t act right”?

What then did you do afterward?

Did you work on it or ignored it and kept ignoring it until further notice? And maybe thought the one on the receiving end deserved it.

 

Food for thought

 

 

2. She is vulnerability

 

A high-value woman is not scared to show her emotions.

She also knows how to express herself, especially with words.

I have heard the narrative that women should be tough if they want to sit at the same table as men.

Oh, here is a good one … Don’t let them see you cry, that’s a sign of weakness.

 

By the way, being vulnerable is saying what is in your heart in the most sincere form.

E.g.: calling out a friend because of some bad habits, admitting to a spouse that you didn’t like their food, or telling a parent how they hurt you.

There is a TED Talk on vulnerability, by Brene Brown, it’s so good. I hope you get to listen to it.

Let’s learn to be vulnerable especially when it comes to expressing ourselves.

 

 

3. She seeks growth

 

It’s either you are growing or stagnating.

A high-value woman seeks to grow. She’s always learning new things.

She seeks to grow her knowledge, skills, finances, networks, wealth, communication, and even relationships.

She challenges herself to new levels and extends invitations to people around her to do the same.

 

 

 

 

My charge to us at this point is to read Proverbs 31.

Please please read the TPT version. (The Passion Translation)

I promise you you will fall in love with this woman.

It’s basically a king being advised by the mum about the kind of woman he should look for.

SO GOOD!

 

She is the woman I wish I could be and more…and that is exactly what I wish for you fellow women.

 

 

4. She follows through

 

A high-value woman commits to what they start and gives their best.

If they start on a course, best believe they will finish it.

If a legit distraction happens along the way, they find a wise way to deal with it and not act as though the thing they had started was never important in the first place.

You know how we slap the statement “It was not for me” on things we never finish?

This woman has dignity while laying what she had started to rest instead of using that statement as an excuse for her lack of follow-through.

Guilty as charged***

 

Let’s endeavor to finish what we start.

Even if it means setting smaller goals that are manageable to avoid discouragement.

Find someone to hold you accountable if that’s what you need to do.

You can do this Sis.

 

 

5. She is big on self-care

 

A high-value woman loves herself.

She takes care of her health, her mind, her basic outlook, her space, her body…name it.

She doesn’t have to have all the money in the world to do that. She uses what is in her hands.

She extends grace to herself when she has messed up.

She finds ways to nourish herself if that means taking a walk, reading, resting, cooking for herself, educating herself on different matters, and so on.

The emphasis on this is that it does not take money.

For example, it does not take money to be clean or neat. You see?

 

 

 

 

The two greatest commandments that our Lord and Savior taught were on love, the second one being “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.”

You’ve probably heard the statement, you can’t love others if you don’t love yourself.

I tend to think that trying to love people while seeing ourselves as unworthy, is a pretense and a cry for help that you only can respond to.

I pray that in your growth journey, you will learn ways you can love yourself.

 

 

6. She shows kindness

 

I am convinced that showing kindness to people is a result of self-love and care.

When you look into people who bully people online and say mean things to others, they suffer from a lack of self-love and care.

When you love yourself more, you extend the same to people without even trying.

You literally do unto others what you would want done to you because you understand what is important to you.

 

 

7. She is grounded in her faith

 

Being a Christian, my Faith and belief in Jesus is the glue that holds everything together.

I know that I will fall short of these things and miss a mark in one area or another.

But I also know that there is one who holds me in His arms and knows me fully.

He is my manufacturer and so anything I need to know about me, I speak to Him.

This is the most comforting thing to me and helps me be patient with myself when things don’t add up.

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My closing question is what grounds you?

Well, I know this was a long one, and if you’ve made it this far, yay!

 

Keep showing up for yourself and All the best in your journey to being a high-value woman.

 

Bye and see you in the next one!

 

Xx;)